There’s an intoxicating (or is it dizzying?) cocktail of scents as I walk out of Chiang Mai International Airport with my new co-worker at my side and my first moments of expat life. It’s a mix I come to know well over the next two-and-a-half years living in the Rose of the North and the second largest city in Thailand.It’s an odd combination of diesel, smoke and incense which wafts through the air at all hours. Thick. Nearly burning my lungs.

We hop in the Toyota van and I glance at the driver … on the opposite side of the car than what I’m used to. I relish in the sheer novelty of this difference between my western world and my new SE Asian world, cherishing it because soon I know it will become common to me.

Down a small soi, a couple of blocks from my new work at Save Elephant Foundation/Elephant Nature Park where I am working to educate travelers on responsible elephant tourism and the the shocking truth about riding elephants, is my new apartment. The office manager at the park found it for me and informed me that they had booked me in for one month. It was a major relief for me, since the weeks leading up to my transition to being an expat, I was in the throws of leaving my Las Vegas life behind, dropping my worldly possessions into storage, and driving my car cross-country to my parent’s home in Maryland.It’s a four-story white building stained gray from pollution. I wipe the sweat off my brow, which forms immediately as I step into the humid summer air.

It’s definitely not like the apartment buildings I’m used to, but whatever.

Yam walks in with me as I struggle with my two suitcases (thank goodness the third, massive one is somewhere other than here) and speaks in Thai to the apartment manager who produces a single key, attached to an Eiffel Tower keychain.

We walk up three flights of steps, approaching the third winded and dripping with sweat. I turn the key in the door and it creaks open.

I blink a couple of times.

It’s a room. A dirty room. A fan is screwed into the wall. The bed, stained. The bathroom layered with dust and dirt.

“This is wonderful,” I report to Yam, even though in the back of my mind, I’m crying big tears. This is where I’m living? I feel like an entitled brat as I stare at the room, cringing as discreetly as possible.

How am I going to get out of this?

Later in the day, I meet a friend of mine for Thai tea and soup.

“My apartment is terrible,” I lament.

“Come live in my building,” he suggests. My eyes widen.

We walk the few minutes across the moat, crossing from Old Chiang Mai to the rest of the city, and to his residence. Sparkling tile floors, a little restaurant and a convenience store greet me as I approach the reception area.

“My friend is interested in renting a room,” he tells the man at the desk.

“Yes, we have some rooms,” the man responds, taking a key and walking out from behind the desk. We follow.

Room 619.

He opens the door and I feel calm once again come over me. It’s essentially a hotel room, but I come to learn that this is the norm as far as apartments go in Chiang Mai for the digital nomad/teacher/young expats on a budget variety.

A king bed, microwave, little fridge and a small balcony which provides breathtaking views of the setting sun.

“I’ll take it. Immediately,” I announce, smiling.

It’s all done pretty quickly. I head to an ATM and return with a stack of Thai baht to cover my security deposit and first month’s rent (which runs about $200 a month and includes access to the small gym and rooftop plunge pool).

Then, it’s time to figure out how to handle the apartment work acquired for me. Delicately.

“D, you need to be careful,” my Dad informs me via Skype later that day. “You can’t insult them.”

I nod, even though he can’t see.

Before I relocated to Thailand, I did my homework regarding the cultural differences between my old world and the new one. One of the most important things in Thai culture is to make sure a person doesn’t lose face.

This means there are no confrontations. You keep your opinions which may embarrass others to yourself. And, you definitely don’t check out of the apartment someone found for you because you found something better.

I get anxiety immediately. How do I tell the manager that I moved?

“Blame being spoiled on the relocation,” Dad suggests.

So, I do just that the next morning. I take extra precautions as I arrive to the office, ducking down a soi so I enter in the door closest to the old apartment, versus the door closer to the new.

I suck the air through my teeth and approach the manager, key sweaty in my hand.

“I am so grateful you found me an apartment,” I begin. “I really need working internet and air-conditioning while I adjust to my new life though. So, I decided to rent an apartment that is more western. Let me know what the cost for rent in the apartment is and I will go get money for you right now.”

“Dianaaaaa, no problem,” she says, smiling.

Relief.